I feel very lucky to have met Chad and even luckier to be married to him. He is a kind, loving and attentive husband, even if it is not in the ways I need him to be. I feel like he does his best to make me feel well loved and liked by him. He does his best to make me feel that he sees me and he gets me. I can always be myself around him. He does his best to understand my need for our life to be calm, predictable, and comfortable. I write all that because so often when love is written about it is written about in such a way that makes it seem like it needs to be dramatic. Chad gives me butterflies and I think he is the most beautiful person I have every laid eyes on, but that is not the basis of our love or why I love him. He does not often give me drama, surprises, or adventure. I don’t value those things. I think it is ok that I don’t value those things. I think it is ok to enjoy a quiet life. I feel like there is so much out there in the world telling me that I should seek excitement and always be striving for more. That appreciating what I have and craving a calm predictable quiet life is somehow wrong. I want to put it out there that it’s not. It is completely ok to want and to have a life that is not “instagrammable”. It is ok to have no interest in being a social media influencer or guru. It is ok to be who you are and love what you have and where you are in life.

I think this post is inspired by two things. The first one being Chad. The second being how many of my clients are sad that their lives are not bigger or flashier. Personally, I enjoy not photographing everything I eat from three different angles before I eat it. I also enjoy sitting across the table from the man I love completly focused on him or a jigsaw puzzle. I enjoy social media and, as y’all already know, love me some twitter. If you don’t follow us on twitter please do and tweet at your gurl! Chad and I share an account so our twitter is very diverse and interesting even if I do say so myself. My point is Chad and I do what we enjoy, not what we think others would enjoy hearing about us doing. This does not mean we are stagnant or that our relationship is stale. What it does mean is that we are in pursuit of what makes us happy and what enriches our lives. We don’t let others set our standards. I want to enjoy my life. As you know, I am struggling with the decision about what to do in June. I am not sure if I want to stay in Japan or move somewhere else. This contemplation is part of my process and hope to reach a decision sooner rather than later. I want to have more good days than bad and truly hope that y’all already do.